Life as a Practice

Posted on April 13th, 2013 by in Ask the Expert

In this edition of Ask the Expert, Coby Kozlowski, a life coach, expressive-arts therapist, and faculty member at Kripalu, answers questions about trusting your instincts, making big decisions, and finding the right life coach for you.

I’m feeling stuck in my job. Any tips on how to figure out if this is a good time to move on?

Both staying and going are practices, and there will be lessons on both paths. There’s no right or wrong decision; yogic philosophy simply asks that you tolerate the consequences of whatever decision you make. There are practical considerations, of course: Are you valued at work? Is it wise to leave your job if you have a family to support? But it comes down to how loud the knocking is, and what it is that’s knocking. If the knocking continues, you’ll eventually make the choice to follow that call.

I’ve thought of going to a life coach, but I’m not sure how to choose the right person. How do I find someone who’s credible and capable?

Credentials don’t matter to me as much as whether it feels right. Do you like them, do you resonate with their way of being and living, do you feel a connection? Every life coach should offer free consultations or sample sessions. I meet with clients for an hour and a half or even two hours before we decide whether we’re going to work together. It has to be a good fit for both of us, because we’re cocreating this experience.

I have a hard time trusting my instincts. How do I grow more confident?

Practice, practice, practice! What would it be like to say yes to all your instincts for a week? What would show up? How different would your life be? Put yourself into the experiment of living: Feel what it’s like to flex that muscle, see what happens, and practice not being too attached to the outcome. That’s how we rewire our brains and get new perspectives on how we see and experience life. The practice of yoga invites us to trust life and trust what comes naturally. We’re instinctual beings—that’s the evolutionary impulse that got us to stand up on two legs!

Do you find yourself questioning your instincts? How do you get yourself out of a rut? Share your thoughts! If you have questions for our Ask the Expert series send them to socialmedia@kripalu.org

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About Coby Kozlowski, MA, E-RYT

Coby is a professional life coach, inspirational speaker, yoga and dance teacher, expressive arts therapist, Ayurvedic health educator, and expert in transformative leadership. She is the founder of Simple Rhythm Coaching LLC, cofounder of Souluna Life Coach certification training, and serves on the faculty at Kripalu. She was also on the faculty of Kripalu’s Semester Intensive, an education program for young adults. Coby is a skier, surfer, triathlete, ultimate frisbee player, fire spinner, and lover of adventure. Her book, The Yoga of Living Leadership™, is forthcoming.
  • http://www.treelifeblog.com Teresa Cristiano

    Getting myself out of this rut I have been in has been more than just difficult. I seem
    to be putting more and more pressure on myself to be better! To lose weight. To
    eat better to exercise everyday like I used to. I am constantly thinking about
    where I used to be with my weight and my attitude. I was happy, comfortable and
    full of life and energy. How do I get back to that? How do I become a better
    me? I have no energy and no motivation. I work out inconsistently and eat poor
    half of the time. I know exactly what I am doing to myself. But I won’t stop! When
    will enough be enough? When will I change my mind and decide to make better
    decisions?