Sex. The word itself piques our interest, whether or not we admit it. How can we not be sensitized to sexuality? Suggestive images are ubiquitous in advertising, and there’s no shortage of sexy characters jumping into bed on television and film. All around us, the message is clear: Everyone’s having really great sex. Not quite. [...]
by Peter Bregman, guest blogger Life is distracting. According to research, people are interrupted, on average, four times an hour. Here’s the kicker: The more challenging the task you were working on, the less likely you are to go back to it after the interruption. In other words, we’re most likely to leave our most [...]
by, Renée Peterson Trudeau Whether your kids are toddlers or teens, the start of a new school year signifies opportunity, a fresh start, and a chance to do things differently. If you’re feeling some anxiety around the all the transitions, juggling, and driving that usually accompany a new school year, take a deep breath, pause, [...]
Coming out of winter’s cold, the earth thaws and so do we. Winter naturally keeps us introspective. Spring, on the other hand, brings out our natural ability to connect and communicate with others.
Here is a simple and elegant system of conscious communication called co-listening, which supports both speaker and listener in clearer, deeper, more connected exchanges. In this model, one person agrees to be the speaker, the other, the listener. For three minutes the speaker simply speaks, expressing his/her feelings, thoughts, and ideas. The listener as the witness remains in silence. When the three minutes are up—use an egg timer or alarm—shift roles. Repeat this for two or three rounds as needed. Regularly used, new depth can be established.
Freedom is offered to both participants. Without comments from another, even well-intended ones, a speaker opens into a fuller range of expression. The listener is freed up to be present, rather than calculating a response. By practicing being present in the moment during communication, deeper connectivity can be reached.