Balancing Your Yin and Yang

As a communications director, throughout my 20s and most of my 30s, I pushed myself hard. After securing media coverage for a client on the Today show, I barely stopped to breathe before I was pitching their story to National Geographic. When it came to generating results, I was convinced if I just “forced” the outcome, it was bound to happen.

Sometimes this worked; often it didn’t. But, invariably, this over-aggressive mode of operating always left me feeling exhausted, overextended, and depleted (not to mention hugely deficient in the fun and joy department).

Over time—as a result of a lot of personal-growth work—I came to realize that these stressful feelings were a sign that my energy was out of balance and too heavily weighted in the masculine realm. I had not yet learned how to tap into my feminine strengths, such as asking for and receiving help, and pausing and reflecting before leaping into action.

Regardless of our gender, we all possess both feminine (often called “yin”) and masculine (often called “yang”) energies. Yet, in our Western “just do it” culture where results and outcome are so highly valued, most of us—both men and women—are out of balance, and many of us have come to overly rely on our yang strengths, although I’m sure there are also many of you who experience the opposite and may be too reliant on your yin strengths.

The danger of this imbalance is physical and emotional exhaustion (envision pushing a wheelbarrow full of rocks up a mountain, and the long-term effect this has on your body). You risk wearing yourself out and, more importantly, you miss out on the many gifts that come from accessing your highly intuitive yin-oriented talents and gifts such as collaborating with others, expanding creatively, and tapping your intuitive wisdom.

Both masculine and feminine energies are important. I could not have birthed my first book without tapping my yin strengths, such as accessing my intuition and waiting until I was fully inspired to begin writing. Nor could it have been possible without my yang strengths—calling on the fire in my belly to execute the timeline and get the book to the publisher by the required deadlines. But real power comes when we learn how—and when—to call forth both of these strengths.

Here’s a short list of a few yin and yang strengths.

Yin/feminine characteristics: Intuitive, receptive, process-oriented, collaborative, relational, being

Yang/masculine characteristics: Directive, goal-oriented, aggressive, authoritative, determined, doing

Observe how your body feels as you read first the yin list and then the yang list above; in which camp do you spend more time? Make a list of some of your yin and yang strengths that have supported your personal and professional success thus far. Jot down a few specific ways you could begin to allow more of your yin or yang qualities to surface (for example, carving out time to take a personal retreat or sitting with an idea or strategy for a week before taking action on it).

I challenge you to begin cultivating an awareness for which energy could best serve in a given situation. Whether it’s at work, in the midst of parenting, or while launching a new creative endeavor, envision yourself becoming comfortable learning to weave your yin and yang attributes together, moment to moment. Some of the ways I balance my yin/yang energies are through movement such as dance, yoga, qi gong, tai chi, creative writing, drawing, taking retreats, and journaling.

Take your time and invoke lots of curiosity and compassion as you dive into this theme; it took me more than 35 years to begin to understand this concept, and I’m still working on it today.

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Renée Peterson Trudeau is an internationally recognized transformational coach, speaker, catalyst, founder and president of Career Strategists, and the author of two award-winning books The Mother’s Guide to Self-Renewal: How to Reclaim, Rejuvenate and Re-Balance Your Life and Nurturing the Soul of Your Family: 10 Ways to Reconnect and Find Peace in Everyday Life.

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